Welcome to Created for Love Ministry.
Our goal is to provide educational resources for all women who are trapped in hurtful relationships with their intimate partners.
You will find encouragement, hope and support.
Furthermore, women who are searching for answers will benefit the most if you interact and engage with the process of learning and sharing right here on this site that is focused on you and your health in becoming all you can be.
You are not alone. Did you know that relationship battery is a silent epidemic today? The statistic shows that domestic violence is a major problem in the world today and a cause of many deaths and disabilities for women aged 16 to 44.
Between 600,000 and 6 million women are victims of domestic violence each year in the world. Nearly three out of four (74%) of Americans personally know someone who is or has been a victim of domestic violence.
On average, more than three women and one man are murdered by their intimate partners in this country every day.
(info by Bureau of Justice Statistics, Intimate Partner Violence in the U.S.)
One in four women (25%) has experienced domestic violence in her lifetime.
Not only that, but our youth are also affected by this terrible statistic.
Approximately one in five female high school students report being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner.
When a woman is abused and unknowingly stays in the relationship for many different reasons,
the young children are also permanently affected. In a national survey of American families,
50% of the men who frequently assaulted their wives also frequently abused their children.
Some of the reasons why a woman might choose to stay in an abusive relationship:
- Low self esteem is so common in the nature of abused women that it is placed here as a number one factor,
self worth is not estimated to be of equal value as the mate.
- Financial dependance on the mate and home, food, clothing needs would be compromised if the abused person would leave the relationship.
- Poverty of a single parent homes in this country is frightening.
- Fear to face being alone and independent from the relationship for the time it takes to start over.
- Some have grown up in abuse and consider it normal to experience it and let it go as if nothing happened. Each new occurrence is forgiven as if it will not happen again. This is a false sense of what forgiveness truly is.
- Self assurance is weakened by the constant blame factor utilized by the abuser. It is psychologically imprinted in the inner belief system of the abused not to believe in the natural feeling of hurt and the sense that something is actually wrong.
- The abuser is so very kind and apologetic after the fact that the abused gets a moment of love that is so wanted. The kindness shown after the fact perceived and noticed by both involved which makes it hard to leave such a wonderful person. The initial love is reinforced by the kind behavior.
- Some are threatened, if you leave I will kill you or someone you love.
- The abuser threatens to kill himself or herself.
- Isolation has been practiced to prevent people from knowing so their are few friends to draw from.
- Lack of belief in making new friends and new resources for support.
- Loss of faith in love and people in general.
- Stigmatized feeling of coming forth and actually identifying the abuse is overwhelming.
- Consequences of abuse and the effort that is involved in getting healthy will take a lot of work. Physical and emotional weakness has been the norm.
These are just to name a few reasons why a woman or a man might remain in an abusive relationship. Please read the following checklist for evaluating your relationship located on the next tab/page.
If any of these reasons speak to you, maybe evaluate your options and feelings in regard to being set free from such an abusive cycle.
The abussive cycle is a cycle that repeats itself. So the next time you find yourself in this event, you may always revisit this site for resources and encouragement in making a change.
Let's help each other believe in ourselves as women and get rid of dread.
One of the best resources that we have is information but most of all, God.
Proverbs 31:25 says
She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. (NLT version)
This verse gives faith for self worth and the future.
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